One and the Same

     Abigail Pogrebin talking about her book One and the Same. I just ordered it and I can't wait to read it. Listening to this I find myself relating to so much of what she says. I love it. I'm excited to read the book in its entirety.
     Listening to this makes me feel less alone in the world. It makes me feel like less of a freak. It is "normal" when you are a twin for these things to happen and for things to be different from singletons. That is how listening to this makes me feel. It makes me feel like there is a community of people out there that does understand what it is like to be a twin and face the struggle of being an independent person and fitting into society while still having a twin and being so connected to them all at the same time. It provides some comfort to hear the stories of twins that are much older than me and how they dealt with the struggles and how they dealt with life and growing up and growing apart and such.
     One thing that always bothers/scares me is that adult twins say that they miss how things were when they were younger. I'm so afraid that I am going to lose my connectedness with Melissa. I don't want to lose it. It is my most important relationship. I think this is something that I'm going to have to deal with at some point. I just hope that we can find a way to keep our connectedness and at the same time be able to take our own paths in life. Perhaps this is one of the biggest dilemmas and one of the main things that is keeping us from becoming independent of each other. I just always makes me sad to hear twins say that. Why do you have to lose something to gain something else? What if what you gain isn't as good as what you lost?