My entire life I have been a "we", never a "me". "I" has meant almost nothing to me my entire life. Sure I would use it when writing a paper or when stating an opinion. But it was always our mother, our father, our dog, our, our, our, we did this, we did that. And this was never a problem. We were always together so it was always clear who we was. All of this made sense until college. When we were not together all the time and we would meet new people separately.
This is when this me vs. we speech became a problem. I would be talking to people and I was say something like "we did ____ this weekend". It would just come out. And then I would feel like we...WE...WE!?!. I felt like I must sound as though I belonged in an institution. I pictured the person I was talking to to be like "We? Who is we? The voices!?!? What is wrong with this person?". Of course that was just my slightly paranoid, over-thinking brain kicking into action. Hence my quest to become comfortable with the me/I thing instead of the we/our began.
This was/is a strange thing for me. I feel like when I'm talking about my parents, I'm really talking about our parents, for example. So it feels very strange to say my. Because they aren't just mine. They are my sisters too. But regular siblings don't seem to have this problem. I'm in the current state of flip flopping between the two when it feels comfortable in the conversation. I try and check myself and when I catch it I try and say me/I as not to sound like a crazy loon. I often think I end up awkwardly stumbling over the whole situation in the fashion of "we..I, I mean I *blank stare, some blushing from embarrassment*, did ____" or "our *beed eep boop bop, more blushing and embarrassment* I mean my ____". Awkward and embarrassing situations come out of this...in my mind anyway.
So as is the story of my life, this is a work in progress. Perhaps I'll eventually train myself to use I/me with ease and comfort. If not I'll be doomed to this constant state of limbo where I interchange I/me and we/our possibly making myself sound crazier than before. Or I will just revert back to we/our permanently. I don't see this happening. I would like to be a "normal", I use this term loosely because - define normal, functioning member to this society who does not have terrible conversations filled with awkwardness, stumbling, and red faces because I'm trying not to sound nuts. So this shall be one of my many works in progress until it is not, whenever that day will be.
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