Last night I had the joy of playing a shameless, invasive game that involves being allowed to ask the lucky person in the hot seat any question you want for 3 minutes. I was hanging out with people that I occasionally see and one that I don't think I ever have. We went to high school together for 2 years and then he graduated and he also dated one of my best friends. He just happens to be a twin and the questions eventually turned to this and his experience.
Being 2 years older he is a recent graduate and so is his brother. But his brother is living in Chicago and will likely never come back to this area. He said that his brother needed to leave in order to find himself. I couldn't help but relate instantly. He said that he would have been fine, but that his brother would not have if they had gone to the same college. He basically described my life. Going to the same college is a double edged sword. On the one hand you have a friend and constant comfort. Someone to always look out for you. A roommate. That is how we did it anyway. Some twins go to the same school but room separately. Then on the other hand you have to watch that person flourish and you can't figure out what you're doing. It makes it hard to find yourself.
It was interesting to hear another twin describe this. Because it means I'm not alone. It means that what I'm feeling is normal and that other twins feel that way too. Although this specific twin recognized it way sooner than I did. I can't change it now. For 1) I'm too afraid and 2) I'm invested in Pace and the community there. So leaving isn't really a viable option. Not for me. But we'll figure it out.
I just fascinates me to talk to other twins. Because like I said, despite the differences there are bound to be more than a few similarities and I love it.
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